It is a Sunday morning, at 2:49 a.m. This archery parent is sitting in bed, watching an autobiography on C.S. Lewis and sipping hot tea. This is by no means a typical night. As an archery parent with the archer overseas competing, the connection is through the internet. Live scoring is about to start again. There is the extra page on the computer open and it is being checked often. Too often. Patience is not my strongest virtue. The start time does not change no matter how many times the page is clicked. Dang it!
Last weekend, the archer drove over the mountain and through the woods (literally) to a tournament to help prepare for this current tournament. The archer was allowed to go off on his own for the first time. During that tournament, there was communication concerning safety and arrival, of course. Then it went into archery. On that lazy Sunday afternoon, this parent spent much time scouring the house looking for a 10-degree quick release. Changes were needed to be made and tried upon arriving home. There were several found, but not the “right” one. As those others were not the brand he wanted. Searching the garage, the office, the junk drawers, bedroom, etc. The archer ended up using one of the parts that were found after much time was investing in locating them. Organization of my sixteen-year-old is equal to the aftermath of a tornado.
This weekend, much sleep has been lost checking on live scoring. The mental stress increases as a parent when the archer is out of your control. There have been many conversations, corrections, a few reprimands, and many praises this past year preparing the archer to rely on another adult. Additionally, to ensure behavior and BEHAVIOR are appropriate. There have been tough texts sent and a couple received on problems that need to be addressed. There have been far more successes than mistakes, thankfully.
By the time an archer is a seasoned national competitor, there is a shift in needs for the archer. Mental management of the archer and the parent come in to play. Even with successes, there are the concerns about physical health and strain on young muscles. Pains and aches are managed. The archer spends much of the time training, so ensuring that when there are teenage time opportunities, encouragement is giving to go have some fun.
Even when negotiating curfew time, because that is always a debate, this parent gives weird times to be home. Like 11:14. Two reasons, first, typically is how we agree on a time, next, giving an obscure time actually helps teach time management. There is a challenge there and the lesson in being on time. Time management is taught and learned.
It is now 3:26 a.m., 14 minutes until the next scoring round begins. This archery parent is wide awake and my attention at church will be a struggle in the morning, well, daylight. These new levels come with many additional stresses. The biggest worries are the distance and keeping the scenarios of tragedy possibilities in check in the head. Oh, this parent is a WORRIER! (7 minutes to go!) Dreams often come with battle wounds.
Scoring is up! Shoot Straight. May at the end of each day hope be what we have left.