The word dream often relates to things that are far away or occurring during sleeping hours. However, often the word dream is used when a success occurs that other would love to obtain. These type of dreams come with sacrifices and painstaking steps to achieve. Dreams are often self-centered filled with achievement or wealth. It has been said to this archery parent and the archer that we are living a dream in the archery world that others would love to obtain.
This parent has different dreams than that often expressed by others impressions. Parents are often deeply involved in helping dreams come true. Involvement does not equate to having the same dreams. It is easy to become wrapped up in the dreams of your children. Parents want our children to find a passion, a place they belong and ultimately happiness and success. This parent believes that it is about the journey not the final destination of the “dream”.
Often, it is forgotten that parents actually have their own dreams that are not the same as our children. Climbing to the top of any dream requires tremendous sacrifice in every aspect of life. Time, money, friendships, family and soul have been drained by help the archer reach and stretch towards dreams. It requires a commitment that will easily warp your dreams. This archery parent ultimately has little regret about the journey. Archery saved the archer and this archery parent at a very difficult time in our lives. The sacrifice has been great, the rewards are far greater.
This parent has dreams of her own. Many dreams have been let go or put on hold as a parent. Spending the last 22 year as a parent to two amazing young men that are both working towards dreams, has pushed personal dreams aside. Adjusting to their lost dreams and shifting into new dreams along the way, has changed what this parent defines as successful and happy.
The dreams, the ultimate dreams, that this parent has for my young men, are helping them to be givers. A person that gives thanks for opportunities given by giving more. A person that brings light and joy to others. A man that stands up against wrong and evil. There is no better way to measure a person than being called a good person. A person that corrects mistakes. Offers forgiveness and asks for it when needed.
It is amazing to see the hard work and sacrifice pay off. It is amazing to see the mistakes that have encouraged growth and change. It is amazing the friendships, lifelong friendships that have been developed. It is amazing to see a sport that encourages and fosters growth. It is amazing to be the parent of two young men and have something to offer the world. It is amazing, despite archery not being this parent’s dream.
The ultimate dream is said in John 3:16:
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”