One of the hardest aspects of life and relationships is being silent at times. Then knowing these times compounds the issue. Even on social media, especially, on social media, this is a time to know when to be silent. Recently, an opinion was asked about an archery related subject. This archery parent is invested, like the rest of us, in the future of archery, by default at the very least. So, an honest kind opinion was given…
There is a difference between offering an opinion and then having someone, that does not know you, start a debate or even an argument. There are times for healthy debates and even healthy arguments. Typically, those time should be face to face. Starting a debate or argument with a “virtual” stranger, can and will eventually create drama. Yes, this archery parent has had a couple relationships hurt by social media. This instance, the comment was deleted. Not worth the time, this time.
The lessons learned are this, when the heart rate increases in a negative way, pay attention. Remove yourself and the situation…and take a day or two. There are many that handle things the minute ruffles get feathered. However, for this parent, the lessons have led me to take a breath. Pray on it, chew on it, weigh the relationship, pray on it…then act. This is with social media. Real life, sometimes head on is the only way, sometimes just stepping out is needed.
In the past two years, one archery relationship was healed and growing. The second that was affected, took time, but we are kind and respectful to each other. Looking at biblical principles, always help draw the attention off of the emotions, which can be five at a time, and on to the working forward. Recently, on the internet, a page was screen shot and saved and even printed as a reminder to have on hand at tournaments and in life.
WHEN TO KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT
In the heat of anger – Proverbs 14:17
When you don’t have all the facts – Proverbs 18:13
When you haven’t verified the story – Deuteronomy 17:6
If your words will offend a weaker brother – 1 Corinthians 9:11
If your words will be a poor reflection of the Lord or your friends and family – Peter 2:21-23
When you would be ashamed of your words later – Proverbs 8:8
If the issue is none of your business – Proberbs 14:10
Of your words would convey the wrong impression – Proverbs 17:27
If your words would damage another’s reputation – Proverbs 16:27
If your words will destroy a friendship – Proverbs 25:25
When you are feeling critical – James 3:9
If you can’t speak without yelling – Proverbs 25:28
(There are more on the list, but these seem most appropriate to the archery field.) The last one in very large print was this Proverbs 21:23
“WHOEVER KEEPTH HIS MOUTH AND HIS TOUNGE, KEEPETH HIS SOUL FROM TROUBLE.”
In a resolution, this archery parent has to says…all we can do is try.